Each girl would like to be self-confident, self-sufficient, interesting. They need to be fought.
Other people will love and respect a person if he also treats himself. But often we give ourselves a negative attitude or, as the esotericists would say, incur damage.
There are phrases that are not worth repeating, even if you are in a difficult situation.
10. I am fat
This is a self-destructive phrase, and it doesn’t matter if you really have recovered, or if you just want to be lighter and more airy. Do not tell her friends or acquaintances, and even more so, yourself, even for fun.
If there is a problem with being overweight, it needs to be addressed. Count calories, move more, choose an interesting sport for you. You can find a good nutritionist and eat, following his advice.
But extreme methods of losing weight, such as a hunger strike or a strict diet, are best avoided, because chronic diseases may appear. In addition, the weight that you lost in this way will definitely return to you.
9. I will not be happy or successful
You can not pronounce the phrase "I never ...", because thereby, you order your subconscious to become a failure. And it will listen to you.
You really can’t learn English or any other language, don’t meet interesting people, you won’t be able to earn big money.
We must believe in ourselves and everything will work out. Believe in your strength - this does not mean waiting by the sea when a "golden" fish comes up, but calculate and think through everything and strictly follow your plan.
8. Do not pay attention to me
Pronouncing such a phrase, a person as if immediately gives the command to others to ignore it, to perceive themselves as an empty place.
It is possible that you are just tired, you want to be alone and you really need others to ignore you at the moment. If so, you can simply retire to work, drink tea and calm down, or meditate at home. But it is not necessary to inform others about it.
If you need other people's support, ask. Others will always help you overcome your problems, tell you exactly how to act.
7. I am too young or old for this
Such a phrase demotivates you. So you allow yourself to not change anything in your life. You have already decided for yourself that you cannot influence the course of events.
For example, you tell yourself that you can no longer learn a foreign language, because the memory is not the same, there is no time and no strength.
But there are many examples when people in adulthood mastered not one, but many languages. With these phrases you cover your laziness, indecision and fear. You are not trying, not looking for a way to deal with your problem.
There are many examples when children made grandiose discoveries, earned millions without making any special efforts for this.
Or vice versa, talented actors became famous after 40 years. Therefore, it is never too late, and even more so, it is never too early to move towards your dream.
6. I always do everything wrong
If you are used to constantly evaluating yourself in this way, then it is possible that you suffered psychological trauma in childhood. Most likely, you were told that you can not do something right.
And, even if you grew up, this attitude, laid down in childhood, does not cease to function. Even if you handle everything perfectly, this self-belief will prevent you from moving in the right direction.
There is a risk of becoming a perfectionist, and then a neurotic. Therefore, forget about this installation. No wonder they say that the best is the enemy of the good.
5. Anyone would do this task, I didn’t do anything special
It sometimes seems to us that the task is so simple that any other person would cope with it. Indeed, there are no irreplaceable people.
But, you probably did your job efficiently, putting your whole soul into it. You tried, studied all the information, i.e. did everything exactly as it should have been.
Perhaps you have good experience and a lot of knowledge on this topic. You are probably a good specialist, and they are highly valued by employers. And do not compare your achievements and the successes of other people.
Always compare yourself to yourself, observe your growth, notice any progress and accept praise with joy. You deserve them.
4. I am not competent enough for this
This phrase is your barrier to success. Remember that people are not born competent. All this is acquired with experience.
Many people started small and gradually moved forward, achieving success. They believed in themselves and wanted to prove to others that they were sufficiently “competent” and “experienced”. One who believes in his abilities can achieve a lot.
3. I am not handsome
Any person who looks in the mirror cannot fail to notice their flaws. But it is important to remember that each person has them. No one is born perfect. Do not focus on your minuses, you should pay attention to the pros.
Your shortcomings are your characteristics that distinguish you from others. People cannot be the same, and beauty standards are constantly changing.
2. I am stupid
Mental abilities are different for everyone. But each person has his own vocation in life. Someone may not be able to become an ideal mathematician, but he has literary abilities. This is normal when people are different from each other, have their own opinions about everything in the world.
If your interlocutor considers you a stupid person, let him justify it. He may be wrong. And if you are right, then it’s good for you that your eyes have been opened.
Children are all born capable, but stupid. It is the parents who help them navigate this world. The mind is a business, and over the years, wisdom comes to a person.
1. I am a loser
Unfortunately, with such an attitude, a person is doomed to be a failure. If we constantly repeat this to ourselves, our subconscious mind perceives this as truth.
And we, whether we want it or not, become losers. It is necessary to get rid of such installations, because Belief in your victory is a huge step forward to your dream.