At the beginning of the relationship, lovers look at each other through pink glasses. They hope that between them there will never be misunderstanding, in their relations there is no place for quarrels, scandals and betrayals.
When a man and a woman get married, the situation does not change for the better. They begin to realize that they are no different from millions of other couples. Passion disappeared, only life remained.
There are two variants of events: either they will divorce, or they will be able to maintain relations. That's just so that it does not come to a divorce, you have to work hard.
It will be much better if the lovers think well before taking a responsible step and connecting their fates. Marriage and family are not those beautiful pictures that many imagine.
Living with another person (even a loved one) is not easy, and when children appear it will become even more difficult. Everyone should know that marriage has its flaws, which should be prepared.
10. You will have to forget about independence
If your partner is ready to fulfill your every desire, this does not mean that this will continue for the rest of his life.
Perhaps now he is behaving perfectly to please you, and then he will show his true character. In any case, you can no longer make decisions yourself. You will need to consult with your chosen one for any reason.
Many couples prefer to discuss all important issues before marriage, but no one can guarantee that after a while your partner will not change his mind.
If you are going to get married, answer your own question: are you ready to come to a common decision, to give in? If the answer is yes, then you can begin preparations for the wedding.
9. You will have to move away from your parents
If you communicate well with your parents, be prepared for the fact that you have to move away from them. From now on, in any difficult situation, you can rely only on yourself and your chosen one, and not on dad and mom.
If your partner liked the parents and managed to make friends with them, you can continue full communication. If the parents are unhappy with your choice, and the partner does not make contact, then you will communicate much less often.
Even if you now promise yourself that you will never leave your parents, gradually your communication will come to naught. You may see each other and call up, but you won’t be able to return that emotional closeness that you had before.
8. Get ready for the routine
Every girl in love thinks that this will not happen to her. She hopes that she will never get bogged down in a routine, the relationship will always be romantic and passionate.
Time passes, she is surprised to find that her life is exactly the same as that of her mother, like that of her neighbor Lenka and many more women.
Therefore, do not amuse yourself with empty hopes, do not think that everything will be different with you. Get ready to establish life, solve financial issues, do cleaning, laundry and cooking.
7. Predictability of family members
One of the most common causes of divorce is predictability. People recognize each other, novelty disappears from relationships. After a while, you will read your partner as an open book. You will know what he will say, what he will do, how he will react to this or that situation. Children will appear, you too will memorize them.
This is the family warmth, which many talk about. Unfortunately, people do not appreciate him. Sometimes they are ready to give everything that they have in order to get new impressions and thrills in return.
6. You will be forced to change habits and lifestyle
It has already been noted above that living with an outsider is not so easy. He has his own ideas about family life, you have your own. You must be mentally prepared for the fact that your life will no longer be the same as before.
For example, if you are an owl and he is an early bird, conflicts are inevitable. You will interfere with your husband's rest in the evening, and he will be in the morning. Such trifles are often the causes of divorce.
To save a marriage, you need to compromise and change your habits and lifestyle.
5. Responsibility
Marriage is a serious responsibility. Now you are responsible not only for yourself, but also for your partner. You will have many responsibilities. You will have to take care of your chosen one, help his parents, raise children.
And if something happens to your partner? Will you be with him “in sorrow and in joy,” as you once promised?
Not everyone is able to carry such a burden of responsibility on their shoulders. Living for yourself is much more pleasant and easier.
4. Now you can’t just leave
If earlier in a fit of quarrel, you could slam the door and go on all four sides, now this behavior is unacceptable. And where will you go from your own home? Even if you leave, you have to come back and discuss the situation again.
Although many are of the opinion that the stamp in the passport is just a formality, it is very difficult for people to decide on a divorce. No one will divorce unless there are serious reasons for this.
Even in a difficult situation, you can try to save the marriage. Indeed, in the event of a divorce, you will have to share children and property, as well as tell this unpleasant news to relatives and friends.
In addition, former spouses receive divorced status, hardly anyone dreams of him.
3. Most often you will be deprived of the opportunity to be alone with yourself
Such a need periodically arises in every person. You must understand that when you get married, you will have to forget about loneliness. Your partner will certainly not leave you alone.
If you are in a bad mood, he will try to get you out of the conversation, offer help, but will not do what you really need. He will not leave you alone with him.
If you are planning children, then completely forget about a quiet life. After their birth, you will not have a single minute left for yourself. At first you cannot even take a shower calmly, and there is no question of “sitting down, thinking”. This will continue for a long time until the children grow up and leave your home.
2. The former gallant gentleman will now be difficult to force to fulfill your request
It seems to you that your partner is perfect, and you are incredibly lucky. Do you understand that after the wedding he will become completely different?
He conquered you, now he no longer needs to care for you. To pick it up from the couch or tear it away from the computer, you will have to persuade or saw it. Each woman has her own methods.
Think in advance how you will “educate” your man. Read books on male psychology, talk with experienced girlfriends so that this behavior does not come as a surprise to you.
1. Family planning
Before applying to the registry office, you need to seriously talk to each other and discuss several issues. Perhaps the most important is the children.
Perhaps you are dreaming of a big and noisy family, and your partner is aimed at a career, and the children do not need him. When you get married, plans may change, but it will be better if you can avoid serious disagreements about family planning.
If you discussed this issue and came to a common decision, then you have a chance to build a happy family.
Do not forget to imagine your partner as a father. If you do not want such a dad to your children, then this is not your man, do not waste time on him.