What is success? Each word is perceived in its own way - someone immediately presents a well-paid job, beautiful things around and the ability to travel the world.
For some, success means being a happy person, regardless of the circumstances. In society, success means sooner achieved goals, but often the hard way under our feet on the way to achieve what we want, we line ourselves - with prejudices and misconceptions.
Mental parasites that limit our development must be fought. Negative beliefs do not allow us to move forward - find out if you have these beliefs, if so, then you should get rid of them as soon as possible.
10. I am not worthy
This belief is the opposite of self-confident: "I deserve only the best." Both that and another is wrong - we cannot be worthy of something or not, if we are destined to find something in this life - it will be with us.
But such a negative affirmation holds back from any actions that contribute to success. For example, you draw well, but hide your talent, because you think that you are unworthy to get a job in a respectable company.
What will come of this? And the fact that a good place that you could take is someone else who doesn’t draw as well as you. Agree, this is unfair.
9. I must live up to other people's expectations
If your parents have already decided for you who you will become, this is only their business. You have the right to make choices and be responsible for your life. It is possible that you will become what your parents wanted, and you will even like what you are doing, but will not the feeling that you have taken the wrong path be constantly present with you?
If you are afraid to disappoint loved ones - just do not give them hope. When no one expects anything from you and does not know about your true goals, it is easier to achieve what you want.
8. And so it goes
If it seems to you that you did an excellent job or are competent enough in any matters, it seems to you. If you do a swing, then the result will be the same.
Imagine the situation - you entered into a relationship with a person, but do not communicate with him, do not care and do not pay attention, thinking that the relationship will somehow develop themselves. What will come of this? At a minimum, a person will not feel love from you, and if you do not love him, then why have you entered into a relationship?
If you want to get a good result, then you should always invest - it doesn’t matter in a relationship or in work. And only in this case the result will please you.
7. Fate is to blame for my problems
When a person believes that other people or fate is to blame for his troubles, this means that he is not responsible for his life and does not manage it. Such an infantile state only leads to collapse - this is how to stop controlling your sail and go with the flow ... Surely you will agree that such a course of affairs is not the most pleasant.
There are problems in everyone’s life - just one solves them and goes on, and the other blames the whole world for not wanting to do anything. It is not surprising that, looking around, such a person would not be satisfied with his life, because he did not decide what would happen to him in it ...
6. Everyone should love me
When a person wants to please everyone, he stops listening to himself. He chooses what to say, what to wear and how to act only taking into account the majority opinion. Such people, as a rule, do not feel completely happy, because they made decisions based on what others like.
When a person loses the love of people around him and their approval, he feels lonely - however, it is this feeling that gives birth to something new and brings a person closer to the truth.
5. I can't be wrong
“I have to be an adequate, competent and successful person” - at first glance, quite a good affirmation, but when a person has difficulties or made a mistake, negative changes begin to occur in him.
A person does not process his mistake, does not try to understand it, but hides it away. This can lead to unpleasant consequences - errors will accumulate and affect any sphere of life, and each of them must be understood and always try to resolve.
4. Nothing is impossible
If you watched the film "Secret", 2006, then most likely you were inspired by the words from the film: "There is nothing impossible. This phrase hinders success, because a person begins to spend his time on visualization and futile dreams.
Where you are now and what knowledge and abilities you have is precisely what determines your success. Each person can become successful, but in the case when he makes some attempts - he tries, “fails” and starts over ...
3. Everything is bad
It is very difficult to find the pros when, as you think, everything is bad, but they are always there. A successful person differs from an unsuccessful one in that unpleasant life situations did not unsettle him and did not become an obstacle to achieving what he desired.
On the contrary, a wise person, seeing that everything is not going as he wants, will think about what he needs to do to change the situation, and does not repeat, inactive: "Everything is bad."
2. I am what others think of me
When we are small, we are still free, because we behave in accordance with our nature. But when we get older, go to school, then we begin to believe others when they tell us about us.
For example: "Olya, you spend too much time on the street," and the girl Olya will begin to believe that her desire to walk in the yard with friends is bad. Growing up, the girl will sit more at the books to hear the approval of her parents and show that she does not walk so much anymore. Why is this bad? The fact that Olya got into the subconscious thought that she has a negative side - to walk, throwing things aside, and such things define us. But what others think of us is not real us.
1. People do not change
This belief does not allow to develop. The fact that people do not change is a very controversial issue. All people are very different - one is constantly changing under the influence of external events, and the other will not be changed by something very big that has come into his life.
Of course, with some traits we remain our whole life - they are laid in us with genes, childhood and upbringing, but life is a movement, therefore, changes occur in a person all the time. If any person tells you: “I will change, give me a chance” - try to do it, take risks - it's bold.