Many couples who have been married for several years feel that their relationship has worsened. Having completed only 10 recommendations, you will be surprised how your relationship will change, and the partner will look at you completely differently.
10. Remember: you are made to love, not to cut
A partner who is always dissatisfied with something does not cause positive emotions, especially if there are reasons for discontent every day. Do you always cut your soul mate? Believe me, she did not deserve it. This is not your child, this is your chosen one, no need to educate him. You cannot tell him all the time how to behave. Otherwise, he will just get tired of you and run away. If something doesn’t suit you, you don’t need to be silent, of course. But talk heart to heart, tell us what worries you and why. You can find a solution to the problem. Perhaps your partner does not even know about your attitude to a particular situation.
9. Do not attach too much importance to everyday problems.
As soon as people begin to equip life, passion comes to naught. Try to have as little life as possible in your relationship. Of course, this is not easy, but try. To get started, make your apartment as functional as possible. Remove all unnecessary cluttering space. The fewer things in the house, the easier it is to clean. Distribute responsibilities among all family members. Forget about the stereotype that a woman should do all the housework. Modern household appliances will greatly facilitate your life. Robot vacuum cleaner, washing machine, slow cooker. Do not cook complicated dishes. The simpler the dish, the more useful it is. No, no, this is not about dumplings. Cooking a light soup or chicken with a side dish will not take you much time.
8. Take a weekend
Yes, of course, everyone has a weekend. But answer one question, how long have you had a rest from your family: from children, parents, dogs and cats? Each couple should have time only for themselves. Allow your grandmothers to have fun with their grandchildren, and at this time you go to a restaurant, walk along the promenade or in the park. If possible, go to another city. If relatives do not agree to spend time with your children, hire a nanny. Well, if the children have grown up, don’t be afraid to leave them at home alone, it’s time for them to get used to living an independent life. When communicating with your soulmate when you are alone, try to avoid everyday talk about home improvement, the distribution of finances and raising children. Talk about your feelings, desires, remember funny cases, the story of your acquaintance.
7. Do not forget about surprises
Remember your love story. Surely, at first you always wanted to please the chosen one. You arranged surprises for him, and he surprised you in return. Give your soul mate a small gift with meaning, arrange a romantic dinner, dance a striptease or invite him to spend a weekend outside the city. When buying a gift, show your imagination. After all, at the beginning of the relationship you did not ask each other what to give. Your gifts were not only useful, but also unexpected. Now your whole life is predictable, so try changing it.
6. Find a joint hobby
A joint hobby is very close. Of course, if this is not a household matter. Go in for sports, horseback riding. Kindle dancing will help to stir up passion. Cook new dishes. You can learn chess together. There are lots of options for how to spend time together. Only this hobby should be radically different from your usual pastime. Again, someone will have to make concessions. As a rule, at first a man doesn’t really want to do dancing, and a woman hates fishing. Try to share the passion of your chosen one, maybe you will also like it.
5. Make love more often
Over time, passion fades. And you are no longer making love, but are fulfilling your conjugal duty. Some couples cannot even remember the last time they were visited by desire. There are many ways to diversify your sex life. Erotic lingerie, costumes, games, change of scenery. Are you used to monotonous sex in your bedroom? But even in your apartment you can find more interesting places. You can have a romantic evening. Candles, champagne, massage. The option may be banal, but win-win.
4. Develop family traditions
Few families have family traditions. In vain, they are very close. If your family has never had one, think of it yourself. Celebrate the New Year not at the table, but in nature. Every summer, allow yourself a little trip. Have a holiday on the day you meet. Get out once a month with the whole family to the cinema. No matter what you do, the main thing is that all family members participate in this. Then the atmosphere of happiness will reign at home. Everyone will receive positive emotions, and you can look at your partner in a new way.
3. Declare your love
After several years of marriage, partners do not consider it necessary to confess love to each other. They think that their half already knows that they are loved. Why then these confessions? Start with yourself. After all, you are still pleased to hear the words of love from your chosen one, even if you have been together for more than twenty years. They give confidence, strengthen relationships. So, if he does not confess to you in love, you confess. Speak to your beloved or beloved more kind words. In response, you will receive as much warmth, and maybe even more.
2. Look for the good in each other
At the beginning of the relationship, the partners seem to wear pink glasses. They do not see the flaws, and if they do, they soon transfer them to the rank of virtues. After some time spent together, the partners cease to idealize each other. Now the opposite is happening, even the positive qualities of the chosen one begin to annoy. Therefore, pull yourself together and think about what attracted you to this person. If you are still together, for sure, he is not so bad. You can make a list of the pros and cons of a partner. Seek the good in the person you love.
1. Show interest in each other's hobbies
Usually, husband and wife are not particularly interested in each other's hobbies. Some are offended by the fact that a partner runs to fishing to spend time with his family. Others do not understand why spend half a day in the gym, if you can sit at home in front of the TV. Take an interest in your partner’s hobbies, ask questions, listen to his stories, admire his achievements. If you don’t really like his hobby, at least pretend. Maybe when you learn more, it will also interest you.
Diversifying family life is not so difficult. Take time for your partner, regardless of workload at work and the amount of household chores, treat him with warmth, demonstrate your love. Then every day your union will be stronger.